Have you ever been humiliated or bullied?
September 5, 2007 by Michelle Waters
I have.
This topic may not fit exactly into “Selling Physical Products Online,” but I bet most of you can identify with what I’m saying.
Perhaps you’ve been victimized online by people who think it’s OK to demean others. Maybe you were an ugly duckling as a child and the kids at your school never let you forget it.
Or maybe you’ve just bought into the idea that women must have perfect hair, skin and teeth, a 2000 square foot house less than 10 years old, a new sport utility vehicle, 2.5 perfect children and a handsome spouse who lets you spend as much money as you want in order to be liked and successful.
Some communities may tell you that you need to get a job to be valuable. Others tell you that you have to stay at home, nurse your kids for 3 years each and homeschool them until they are 18 to be valuable.
I say, your value is not based on what others think or on what you do.
You are a valuable person. If others have said otherwise, well, their words say more about them than they do about you.
If your actions in the past have not been honorable, it is never too late to to change.
You’re beautiful, you’re valuable, and you can become successful, no matter what you have gone through or what others have said.
Thank you for this post. It came on a day I was beginning to wonder what I am doing and who I am doing it all for. As I sort through my feelings on being a full-time mother and part time wahm, I will remember MY value. That whatever I do, I am valuable.
Thanks for the boost!
Sometimes it’s family members who say certain things so you’ll sit up and say you’ll prove them wrong. (This can be good in a way!)
And also sometimes, we forget we do not need to allow others to pass their negativity to us. (Resolve, laugh, pass the not-so-good customers to a competitor, continue serving customers and community and have fun in the process, etc)
I’ve learnt to remember good customers by name, and the not-so-good ones as a NUMBER (it helps to relieve stress).
I think it’s important not to let others’ arrogance hurt you or get you down. Emotional and mental health is important in order for one to be able to feel he/she is valuable.
Being able to recognize who you are and not allowing others to fit you into some other mold is very important in business and in life. However, even more importantly than that is being happy with yourself, today, and knowing that you are a wonderful person and you don’t need to change. Now, I know that there are times when we all may need some adjustments in what we say or possible do, however, it is facing each day with integrity and honesty that can allow you to apologize when you have done something wrong and accept an apology from others who really mean it.
We each are unique onto ourselves and celebrating that is key in getting through each day and I truly believe that is what can help each of us in our businesses (not to mention relationships). If you aren’t spending the time trying to BE the competition or some one else, than you are able to focus your energy on what YOU have to offer YOUR customers and those people who are important to you.
Ok, I will get off my soapbox.
Thanks Michelle for an interesting topic!
Sincerely,
Teresa Morrow
Owner
Key Business Partners
http://www.keybusinesspartners.com